To express or suppress, that is the question

It is often said, some cultures are suppressive and others expressive. Is this true? I know, in my experience, when emotion would erupt during a family gathering, we would yell, throw the plate down, then once the voices were done with the "love" they would refill the plates and continue with the meal. At another table, I discovered the least little bit of edge would cause silence and a discouragement of recognizing someone had a problem (for discussion? never). The people gathered would ignore the voice in the wilderness until it no longer felt worthy of existing. Can these two opposing voices learn to coexist in a room, much less the world? If the old pearl "opposite attract" makes any sense at all, then the suppressor and the expressor would be the best match ever. Life is never this simple. Most of my interaction with people of the opposite persuasion (suppressed - they were) always involved someone telling me the poor human assumed I was upset at them when I would only be using a clear, strong, controlled voice to tell them my feelings; I was rarely in "throw the plate down" mode at the time. I was only attempting to make a clear statement. The suppressive culture was so sensitive, so insecure, so out of touch on what it meant to express feelings and feeling expressed around them was like a direct hit. A blow to their delicate cultural condition. Culture is not only a form of ethnicity, each family has an intimate culture which dictates how feelings are viewed. In some families, there are no feelings allowed; and in other families, only feelings are placed out there, in every breath they take. I once said, when you decide you have found a person you might want to start your own family with, look at their culture. Stop and remember, they bring a father and mother from two different cultures, and you bring the same. Stopping there, six people exist in the neat little nest of what should seem like only two. In truth of those who exist in a frienemies, an enemies or a marriagies relationship are living a complex reality of suppression and expression. Bless us all for attempting to succeed, and please hide the dishes!